During my digital nomad journey, I have seen many cases of guys who are just too creepy for their good.
Hostels, co-works, clubs, bars, you name it. I have seen guys try to pick up girls in every which way, and most of the time, they just come off as super creepy.
Before we start, a disclaimer: I don’t think I am some sort of dating expert or anything.
I am just a normal dude who has had to deal with his fair share of creeps.
I’m tired of seeing guys be creeps. It’s not attractive, it’s not funny, and it definitely doesn’t get you laid.
So I decided to write a guide on how to not come off as a creepy guy for all the guys out there who are struggling with this.
Plus, If you want to help a creepy friend, or if you’re just trying not to be that guy yourself, here are some tips for you.
How To Stop Being a Creep
Don’t be a creeper!
If you see a girl you like, don’t stalk her, don’t follow her, and don’t creep her out.
Just because you’re interested in someone doesn’t mean you have the right to invade their personal space and make them feel uncomfortable.
Be respectful of other people’s boundaries, and don’t do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable if someone did it to you.
Don’t be too forward
There’s a difference between being flirty and being pushy, and it’s important to know the difference.
Flirting is fun, it’s playful, and it’s a way to show someone you’re interested in them without being too forward.
Pushiness is when you don’t take no for an answer when you’re hitting on someone or when you try to force yourself on someone physically.
Pushiness is a major turn-off, and it’s not going to get you anywhere.
Don’t be a creep, and don’t be too forward. If you can manage that, you’re well on your way to not being That Guy.
This might seem like common sense, but you’d be surprised how many guys try to be someone they’re not when they’re hitting on girls.
Maybe you think you have to act cool or be someone you’re not to attract a girl, but trust me, that’s not the way to go.
The best way to attract someone is to be yourself. Be confident in who you are, and don’t try to be someone you’re not.
If you’re being genuine and authentic, people will be drawn to you.
Know when to back off
There’s a fine line between being persistent and being a stalker, and it’s important to know when to back off.
If a girl isn’t interested in you, don’t keep pushing it.
It’s okay to be persistent, but if someone isn’t interested, know when to back off and move on.
Be aware of your body language
Your body language says a lot about you, and you want to make sure you’re sending the right message.
Be aware of how you’re standing, how you’re looking at the person you’re talking to, and what your facial expressions are saying.
If you come across as too intense, or if you’re making someone feel uncomfortable, they’re not going to be interested in you.
Don’t touch her without permission
This should be common sense, but I’m going to say it anyway because I see guys do it all the time.
Don’t touch a girl without her permission.
That includes putting your arm around her, holding her hand, or anything else.
Even if you think it’s harmless, it can make a girl feel uncomfortable and like she’s being disrespected.
Respect her space
Respect her space, and don’t invade it.
If she’s not interested in you, don’t try to force yourself on her.
And even if she is interested in you, don’t get too close to her until you know it’s okay.
Be aware of your own space, and don’t invade hers.
Avoid creepy comments
This should be obvious, but don’t make any comments that could be interpreted as creepy.
That includes compliments that are too personal, sexual comments, or anything else that might make a girl feel uncomfortable.
If you’re not sure whether something is creepy or not, err on the side of caution and don’t say it.
Don’t stare at her for too long
Staring is creepy, and you don’t want to come across as a creep.
If you’re caught staring at someone, just smile and look away.
And if you can’t help but stare because you think she’s really pretty, just remember to blink once in a while so you don’t look like a creepazoid.
Be polite and respectful
This should go without saying, but be polite and respectful to the girl you’re talking to.
Don’t interrupt her, listen to what she has to say, and don’t talk over her.
And most importantly, don’t be a jerk. No one wants to date a jerk, so just be a good guy.
Listen more than you talk
This is a good rule of thumb in general, but it’s especially important when you’re trying not to be creepy.
If you’re talking more than she is, you’re probably coming across as too intense.
So just relax, and let her do most of the talking. Listen to what she has to say, and you’ll probably find that you’re getting to know her better.
And who knows, she might even be interested in you too.
How not to be creepy as a digital nomad
As a digital nomad, it’s important to be aware of the potentially creepy vibes you might be giving off.
Related: How to Spread Good Vibes As a Digital Nomad
After all, there’s nothing worse than scaring away potential customers or fellow nomads with your awkwardness.
Remember you are not at home
Because we reach new countries and new cultures, it is easy to get comfortable and fall into bad habits.
Remember that you are not at home and that, as a result, certain things which are considered normal back home might not be here.
This goes for everything from your behavior to the way you dress.
Be aware of the way you come across
It is always important to be aware of the way you come across to others, but this is especially true when you are a digital nomad.
This is because, as a digital nomad, you will come across many different types of people from all over the world.
Some cultures are more open than others, and some people are just naturally more closed off.
Because of this, it is important to be aware of the way you come across to others and to make sure that you are not giving off any creepy vibes.
One of the most important things to remember when you are a digital nomad is to be respectful.
Respect the cultures you are visiting, and respect the people you meet.
This includes both locals and other digital nomads.
Just because you are from a different culture does not mean that you can get away with being disrespectful.
How to not be creepy over text
Just like in person, you want to avoid being creepy when you’re texting a girl.
That means no unsolicited wired pics, no sending her dozens of texts if she doesn’t reply right away, and no asking her personal questions that make her uncomfortable.
You can chat about something you have in common, or ask her about her day, but avoid getting too personal.
Just don’t be creepy, and you’ll be fine. (:
How to not be creepy at the hostel
The same rules apply when you’re at the hostel as when you’re anywhere else.
Don’t invade her space, don’t touch her without permission, and don’t make any creepy comments.
Respect her privacy, and be polite and respectful. If you do all of that, you shouldn’t have any problems.
How to not be weird at a party
There’s nothing worse than being the weird guy at a party.
No one wants to talk to you, and you just end up standing in the corner by yourself.
First, don’t do anything that would make someone uncomfortable. That includes staring at people, touching people without permission, or making creepy comments.
Second, try to blend in and not stand out too much. Don’t be the loudest person in the room, and don’t do anything that would draw attention to yourself.
And finally, just be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, and people will be more likely to accept you for who you are.
How to not be creepy at the gym
The gym can be a great place to meet girls, but it can also be a great place to creep them out.
So how do you avoid being that creepy guy at the gym?
First, don’t stare at women while they’re working out. It’s disrespectful, and it’s just plain creepy.
Second, don’t try to hit on women while they’re working out. They’re there to exercise, not to be hit on by creepy guys.
And finally, don’t follow women around the gym. If you want to talk to someone, just approach them and strike up a conversation. But don’t stalk them from machine to machine.
How to not be weird on a date
The best way to not be weird on a date is to just be yourself.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not, and don’t do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable if the roles were reversed.
Just relax, and go with the flow. If you’re genuine, she’ll appreciate it. And if things go well, you might even get a second date.
How to not be creepy when you’re drunk
The best way to not be creepy when you’re drunk is to just drink in moderation.
Don’t drink too much, and don’t do anything that you wouldn’t do when you’re sober.
And if you start to feel like you’re getting too drunk, stop drinking and take a break. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
How to stop looking creepy
Do you think you look creepy? If so, don’t worry, there are a few things you can do to stop looking creepy.
First, make sure you’re well groomed. That means showering regularly, brushing your teeth, and making sure your hair is neat.
Second, dress in clean clothes that fit well. Avoid wearing anything that’s too tight or too loose.
And finally, try to relax and be yourself.
The more comfortable you are, the less likely you are to look creepy. Just don’t try too hard, or you might end up looking even creepier.
How to not be creepy on tinder
When it comes to online dating, there’s nothing more important than not being creepy.
After all, nobody wants to be matched with a total creeper, and nobody wants to date one either.
So how can you make sure that you’re not being creepy on Tinder? Here are a few tips:
– First and foremost, don’t start your profile with a picture of you leering over a sleeping child or animal. That’s just creepy.
– Don’t use pictures that are clearly staged or posed. If your pictures look like they could be from a catalog, they’re probably too posed. And if you’re using a picture of you with an ex, crop them out!
– Be careful about how much information you share in your bio. You don’t want to give away too much, because that can be creepy. But at the same time, you don’t want to say too little, because that can also be off-putting. Just strike the right balance.
– When messaging people, don’t message them constantly or send generic messages like “hey” or “what’s up.” That’s just creepy and annoying. Instead, take the time to read their profile and message them something specific and interesting.
– Finally, don’t be afraid to meet up in person! Some of the best relationships start with a simple coffee date. Just make sure that you’re meeting in a public place and that you tell someone where you’re going beforehand. And if things start to feel weird or uncomfortable, just end the date early. There’s no shame in that.
Have difficulty finding dates? I wrote a guide on How to Date as a Digital Nomad, check it out!
How to not give off a creepy vibe
We’ve all seen that guy at the party who makes everyone uneasy, and we’ve all sworn that we’d never be that guy.
Unfortunately, sometimes it’s not as easy as it seems.
Even the best-intentioned guys can unintentionally give off a creepy vibe.
Fortunately, there are a few simple things you can do to make sure you’re not one of them.
First, avoid using creepy body language. This includes things like standing too close to people, staring too intently, or touching people without consent.
Second, be aware of your facial expressions. If you find yourself making frequent eye contact or smiling in a way that makes people uncomfortable, try to tone it down.
Finally, remember that words can be just as creepy as actions. Avoid making comments that could be interpreted as sexual or threatening, and don’t say anything that would make someone feel uncomfortable.
How to not make creepy eye contact
In order to not make creepy eye contact, you should avoid staring at someone for an extended period of time without blinking.
If you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to look away, try to focus on something else in the room, or think about something else entirely.
Additionally, make sure to blink regularly and avoid widening your eyes too much.
If you can master these techniques, you will be well on your way to making eye contact that is not creepy!
So what to do?!
I admit, I brought a lot of advice on what not to do to not look creepy as a guy. But what should you do then?
The best thing you can do is to SMILE!
Smiling makes you appear more approachable and friendly, which is the exact opposite of creepy.
Another great tip is to be aware of the person you are talking to.
If you are talking to someone who seems uncomfortable, take a step back and give them some space.
And finally, try to be yourself!
Yes, I’m writing it again. But it’s so important!
If you try to be someone you’re not, people will see right through you. And that can be really creepy.
“What is hateful to you, do not do to others”
As a Jewish person who grew up in a religious school, I am very familiar with the golden rule: “What is hateful to you, do not do to others.”
This simple statement can be applied to so many situations, including the issue of creepy behavior.
If you don’t want to be treated in a certain way, don’t treat others that way. It’s as simple as that.
Following this rule will not only make you a better person but it will also help you avoid being creepy!
Please do me a favor
I would like to make a special request
If you meet a creepy person in a hostel or on a plane or anywhere in the world, send him this guide.
I know it can be a creepy move to give someone a link to this guide, but let’s make this world a little less creepy, one guy at a time.
And that’s it! You are now armed with the knowledge of how to not be a creepy guy.
Use these tips wisely and go out there and make some new, non-creepy friends! And don’t forget to smile :).
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