How To Not Be Creepy As A Guy: Tips For Any Situation

How to not be Creepy as a Guy

As a digital nomad, I have had the opportunity to travel to many different countries. I have met some amazing people along the way, but I have also encountered my fair share of creeps. These men have made me feel uncomfortable and unsafe, and their behavior has often been to their own detriment.

Whether itโ€™s in hostels, co-working spaces, clubs, or bars, Iโ€™ve seen countless instances of men behaving in a creepy manner towards women. This behavior has ranged from making unwanted sexual advances to following women into their rooms and trying to force themselves on them

Before we proceed, let me make it clear that I donโ€™t consider myself a dating expert by any means. Iโ€™m just an ordinary guy who has had his fair share of encounters with creeps. Iโ€™m genuinely tired of witnessing this behavior from men because itโ€™s unappealing, unfunny, and certainly doesnโ€™t lead to any positive outcomes.

Thatโ€™s why Iโ€™ve taken it upon myself to write a guide for all the guys out there who struggle with coming across as creepy. Additionally, if youโ€™d like to assist a friend who exhibits such behavior, or if youโ€™re seeking to avoid being labeled as โ€œthat guyโ€ yourself, I have some tips for you.

How To Stop Being a Creep

Creepy guy

Donโ€™t be a creeper!

If you see a girl you like, donโ€™t stalk her, donโ€™t follow her, and donโ€™t creep her out.

Just because youโ€™re interested in someone doesnโ€™t mean you have the right to invade their personal space and make them feel uncomfortable.

Be respectful of other peopleโ€™s boundaries, and donโ€™t do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable if someone did it to you.

Donโ€™t be too forward

Thereโ€™s a difference between being flirty and being pushy, and itโ€™s important to know the difference.

Flirting is fun, itโ€™s playful, and itโ€™s a way to show someone youโ€™re interested in them without being too forward.

Pushiness is when you donโ€™t take no for an answer when youโ€™re hitting on someone or when you try to force yourself on someone physically.

Pushiness is a major turn-off, and itโ€™s not going to get you anywhere.

Donโ€™t be a creep, and donโ€™t be too forward. If you can manage that, youโ€™re well on your way to not being That Guy.

Be yourself

This might seem like common sense, but youโ€™d be surprised how many guys try to be someone theyโ€™re not when theyโ€™re hitting on girls.

Maybe you think you have to act cool or be someone youโ€™re not to attract a girl but trust me, thatโ€™s not the way to go.

The best way to attract someone is to be yourself. Be confident in who you are, and donโ€™t try to be someone youโ€™re not.

If youโ€™re being genuine and authentic, people will be drawn to you.

What Does It Mean To Be Yourself?

Know when to back off

Thereโ€™s a fine line between being persistent and being a stalker, and itโ€™s important to know when to back off.

If a girl isnโ€™t interested in you, donโ€™t keep pushing it.

Itโ€™s okay to be persistent, but if someone isnโ€™t interested, know when to back off and move on.

Be aware of your body language

Your body language says a lot about you, and you want to make sure youโ€™re sending the right message.

Be aware of how youโ€™re standing, how youโ€™re looking at the person youโ€™re talking to, and what your facial expressions are saying.

If you come across as too intense, or if youโ€™re making someone feel uncomfortable, theyโ€™re not going to be interested in you.

Donโ€™t touch her without permission

This should be common sense, but Iโ€™m going to say it anyway because I see guys do it all the time.

Donโ€™t touch a girl without her permission.

That includes putting your arm around her, holding her hand, or anything else.

Even if you think itโ€™s harmless, it can make a girl feel uncomfortable and like sheโ€™s being disrespected.

Respect her space

Respect her space, and donโ€™t invade it.

If sheโ€™s not interested in you, donโ€™t try to force yourself on her.

And even if she is interested in you, donโ€™t get too close to her until you know itโ€™s okay.

Be aware of your own space, and donโ€™t invade hers.

Avoid creepy comments

This should be obvious, but donโ€™t make any comments that could be interpreted as creepy.

That includes compliments that are too personal, sexual comments, or anything else that might make a girl feel uncomfortable.

If youโ€™re not sure whether something is creepy or not, err on the side of caution and donโ€™t say it.

Donโ€™t stare at her for too long

Staring is creepy, and you donโ€™t want to come across as a creep.

If youโ€™re caught staring at someone, just smile and look away.

And if you canโ€™t help but stare because you think sheโ€™s really pretty, just remember to blink once in a while so you donโ€™t look like a creepazoid.

Be polite and respectful

This should go without saying, but be polite and respectful to the girl youโ€™re talking to.

Donโ€™t interrupt her, listen to what she has to say, and donโ€™t talk over her.

And most importantly, donโ€™t be a jerk. No one wants to date a jerk, so just be a good guy.

Listen more than you talk

This is a good rule of thumb in general, but itโ€™s especially important when youโ€™re trying not to be creepy.

If youโ€™re talking more than she is, youโ€™re probably coming across as too intense.

So just relax, and let her do most of the talking. Listen to what she has to say, and youโ€™ll probably find that youโ€™re getting to know her better.

And who knows, she might even be interested in you too.

How not to be creepy as a digital nomad

Me in a creepy moment

As a digital nomad, itโ€™s important to be aware of the potentially creepy vibes you might be giving off.

Related: How to Spread Good Vibes As a Digital Nomad

After all, thereโ€™s nothing worse than scaring away potential customers or fellow nomads with your awkwardness.

Remember you are not at home

Because we reach new countries and new cultures, it is easy to get comfortable and fall into bad habits.

Remember that you are not at home and that. As a result, certain things which are considered normal back home might not be here.

This goes for everything from your behavior to the way you dress.

Be aware of the way you come across

It is always important to be aware of the way you come across to others, but this is especially true when you are a digital nomad.

This is because, as a digital nomad, you will come across many different types of people from all over the world.

Some cultures are more open than others, and some people are just naturally more closed off.

Because of this, it is important to be aware of the way you come across to others and to make sure that you are not giving off any creepy vibes.

Be respectful

One of the most important things to remember when you are a digital nomad is to be respectful.

Respect the cultures you are visiting, and respect the people you meet.

This includes both locals and other digital nomads.

Just because you are from a different culture does not mean that you can get away with being disrespectful.

How to not be creepy over text

Just like in person, you want to avoid being creepy when youโ€™re texting a girl.

That means no unsolicited wired pics, no sending her dozens of texts if she doesnโ€™t reply right away, and no asking her personal questions that make her uncomfortable.

You can chat about something you have in common or ask her about her day, but avoid getting too personal.

Just donโ€™t be creepy, and youโ€™ll be fine. (:

How to not be creepy at the hostel

hostel

The same rules apply when youโ€™re at the hostel as when youโ€™re anywhere else.

Donโ€™t invade her space, donโ€™t touch her without permission, and donโ€™t make any creepy comments.

Respect her privacy, and be polite and respectful. If you do all of that, you shouldnโ€™t have any problems.

How to not be weird at a party

Thereโ€™s nothing worse than being the weird guy at a party.

No one wants to talk to you, and you just end up standing in the corner by yourself.

First, donโ€™t do anything that would make someone uncomfortable. That includes staring at people, touching people without permission, or making creepy comments.

Second, try to blend in and not stand out too much. Donโ€™t be the loudest person in the room, and donโ€™t do anything that would draw attention to yourself.

And finally, just be yourself. Donโ€™t try to be someone youโ€™re not, and people will be more likely to accept you for who you are.

How to not be creepy at the gym

gym

The gym can be a great place to meet girls, but it can also be a great place to creep them out.

So how do you avoid being that creepy guy at the gym?

First, donโ€™t stare at women while theyโ€™re working out. Itโ€™s disrespectful, and itโ€™s just plain creepy.

Second, donโ€™t try to hit on women while theyโ€™re working out. Theyโ€™re there to exercise, not to be hit on by creepy guys.

And finally, donโ€™t follow women around the gym. If you want to talk to someone, just approach them and strike up a conversation. But donโ€™t stalk them from machine to machine.

How to not be weird on a date

The best way to not be weird on a date is to just be yourself.

Donโ€™t try to be someone youโ€™re not, and donโ€™t do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable if the roles were reversed.

Just relax, and go with the flow. If youโ€™re genuine, sheโ€™ll appreciate it. And if things go well, you might even get a second date.

How to not be creepy when youโ€™re drunk

drunk

The best way to not be creepy when youโ€™re drunk is to just drink in moderation.

Donโ€™t drink too much, and donโ€™t do anything that you wouldnโ€™t do when youโ€™re sober.

And if you start to feel like youโ€™re getting too drunk, stop drinking and take a break. Itโ€™s better to be safe than sorry.

How to stop looking creepy

Do you think you look creepy? If so, donโ€™t worry. There are a few things you can do to stop looking creepy.

First, make sure youโ€™re well-groomed. That means showering regularly, brushing your teeth, and making sure your hair is neat.

Second, dress in clean clothes that fit well. Avoid wearing anything thatโ€™s too tight or too loose.

And finally, try to relax and be yourself.

The more comfortable you are, the less likely you are to look creepy. Just donโ€™t try too hard, or you might end up looking even creepier.

How to not be creepy on Tinder

Tinder

When it comes to online dating, thereโ€™s nothing more important than not being creepy.

After all, nobody wants to be matched with a total creeper, and nobody wants to date one either.

So how can you make sure that youโ€™re not being creepy on Tinder? Here are a few tips:

โ€“ First and foremost, donโ€™t start your profile with a picture of you leering over a sleeping child or animal. Thatโ€™s just creepy.

โ€“ Donโ€™t use pictures that are clearly staged or posed. If your pictures look like they could be from a catalog, theyโ€™re probably too posed. And if youโ€™re using a picture of you with an ex, crop them out!

โ€“ Be careful about how much information you share in your bio. You donโ€™t want to give away too much, because that can be creepy. But at the same time, you donโ€™t want to say too little, because that can also be off-putting. Just strike the right balance.

โ€“ When messaging people, donโ€™t message them constantly or send generic messages like โ€œheyโ€ or โ€œwhatโ€™s up.โ€ Thatโ€™s just creepy and annoying. Instead, take the time to read their profile and message them something specific and interesting.

โ€“ Finally, donโ€™t be afraid to meet up in person! Some of the best relationships start with a simple coffee date. Just make sure that youโ€™re meeting in a public place and that you tell someone where youโ€™re going beforehand. And if things start to feel weird or uncomfortable, just end the date early. Thereโ€™s no shame in that.

Have difficulty finding dates? I wrote a guide on How to Date as a Digital Nomad. Check it out!

How to not give off a creepy vibe

Weโ€™ve all seen that guy at the party who makes everyone uneasy, and weโ€™ve all sworn that weโ€™d never be that guy.

Unfortunately, sometimes itโ€™s not as easy as it seems.

Even the best-intentioned guys can unintentionally give off a creepy vibe.

Fortunately, there are a few simple things you can do to make sure youโ€™re not one of them.

First, avoid using creepy body language. This includes things like standing too close to people, staring too intently, or touching people without consent.

Second, be aware of your facial expressions. If you find yourself making frequent eye contact or smiling in a way that makes people uncomfortable, try to tone it down.

Finally, remember that words can be just as creepy as actions. Avoid making comments that could be interpreted as sexual or threatening, and donโ€™t say anything that would make someone feel uncomfortable.

How to not make creepy eye contact

In order to not make creepy eye contact, you should avoid staring at someone for an extended period of time without blinking.

If you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to look away, try to focus on something else in the room or think about something else entirely.

Additionally, make sure to blink regularly and avoid widening your eyes too much.

If you can master these techniques, you will be well on your way to making eye contact that is not creepy!

So what to do?!

I admit, I brought a lot of advice on what not to do to not look creepy as a guy. But what should you do then?

The best thing you can do is to SMILE!

Smiling makes you appear more approachable and friendly, which is the exact opposite of creepy.

Another great tip is to be aware of the person you are talking to.

If you are talking to someone who seems uncomfortable, take a step back and give them some space.

And finally, try to be yourself!

Yes, Iโ€™m writing it again. But itโ€™s so important!

If you try to be someone youโ€™re not, people will see right through you. And that can be really creepy.

โ€œWhat is hateful to you, do not do to othersโ€

As a Jewish person who grew up in a religious school, I am very familiar with the golden rule: โ€œWhat is hateful to you, do not do to others.โ€

This simple statement can be applied to so many situations, including the issue of creepy behavior.

If you donโ€™t want to be treated in a certain way, donโ€™t treat others that way. Itโ€™s as simple as that.

Following this rule will not only make you a better person, but it will also help you avoid being creepy!

Please do me a favor

I would like to make a special request

If you meet a creepy person in a hostel or on a plane, or anywhere in the world, send him this guide.

I know it can be a creepy move to give someone a link to this guide, but letโ€™s make this world a little less creepy, one guy at a time.

And thatโ€™s it! You are now armed with the knowledge of how to not be a creepy guy.

Use these tips wisely and go out there and make some new, non-creepy friends! And donโ€™t forget to smile :).

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